A little….

…each day.

We tell people that time heals… a little each day.

We tell writers to write a little each day.

One day at a time; A little each day…. sigh

In this microwave world, minutes can feel like an eternity!

Today, I’m making every effort to slow done and smell the roses are little EVERYDAY. I’m going to spend 15 minutes alone with myself EVERYDAY.

We seem to make time for the hard things, why not encourage one another to take time for the GOOD things?

And while you’re at it, take the time to leave a comment, however short, on every blog you took the time to read EVERYDAY, EVERY TIME …… we authors can be an insecure bunch! 😉

LIFE….

So much has happened since my last post. My friend has fallen asleep in the LORD. She is Rejoicing in the Lord…. relaxing in paradise

The kids were sick, et cetera, et cetera, etc….

Anywho… all is well with my soul! The waves and the wind still know his name… hallelujah!

I have been comfort eating and sexing my hubby (which is comforting also). I love that my hubby has the ability to take me in my arms and just pray over me. Yes, the sex is great (awesome even). However, it is those times that he  washes me in the water of the word that solidifies our love.
It didn’t take him long to figure out why my libido was seemingly out of control. I LOVE THIS MAN!
He spoke peace over my heart and he held me as I cried it out. I so enjoy being in an adult relationship!

Too many times, I settled for “love” in ALL THE WRONG places. Loneliness will lead you to that mistake, as will boredom.

I wish I’d been strong enough to just love and like me enough, to just wait on the LORD. I have proven to be a poor judge of character when it comes to choosing a mate.

I’m writing this while watching an episode of “Married at First Sight“. It’s distracting. I’ve watched all 3 seasons and I’ve picked correctly each season. Let me go on record and say, “If David and Ashley stay together…. it’ll be a miracle!”

Okay, enough rambling. The serial starts in 24 hours! Stay tuned!

 

 

 

HEY PEOPLE! A Note From My Daughter…

I just want to say that I had a good day today.School was great,I guess :/.I petted an iguana….Which I thought was pretty awesome.I also helped my nieces with their school work today.The math was fractions,which I am really good at,so I told my mom that I can help them so we did it but we didn’t pass :(.But I believe that we can pass tomorrow.I have a feeling that we will..Well I have to go to bed now.Goodnight :).

Zahvie

Kindergeld…. I need some….NOW!!

Kindergeld   – Kinder === child(ren) geld === $$$$

They are giving an increase and making certain that Child Support isn’t being doubly paid to anyone.
Reading the site gave me pause and a thought of moving back to West Germany. I first heard of Kindergeld while stationed there and considering citizenship. I was disenchanted with all things America and my marriage at the time. So it sounded good. They take care of their people in many ways, far better than we privileged Americans do.

I have to stop reading the site. SIGH. They call it a benefit. Americans, unaware of the origin, call it a handout. I remember that there was a sense of pride when speaking of the Geld. While in contrast, Americans are made to feel ashamed about the need for assistance.

isn’t it odd? The use of words? Benefit. Assistance. Handout.

THE NEW DEAL, the first of its kind has been ripped to shreds in the quest for, for, (I haven’t found the correct words).
Herbert Hoover (R)was president when the Crash occurred but felt that the government should not become overly involved in helping individuals dealing with economic troubles. However, this changed with the election of Franklin Roosevelt (D). He worked to create numerous programs through his New Deal to help those affected worst by the Depression. American History/About.com

Does it sound as if I’m rambling? Well, maybe I am. I’m so saddened by the group of people running for President, The Leader of the Free World, that I’m truly trying to make sense of it. I have to vote. It’s my honor and right as an American. I’m just saddened when it appears that other countries take better care of their citizens. I’m done with the entire congress! I also think that I’m verklempt about the Obama’s having to leave the White House. First, allow me to say, I’m not discussing politics, policies, etc. I just enjoy them as a couple, as a family. They’re like that one couple you see all the time and they just make you smile. They have cute kids and no craziness. The only difference is, they live in a sort of fish bowl ~ everyone has an opinion of them.
WOW! Anywho, (I’m off that rabbit trail)
This time around, the entire thing feels like someone died and now every Tom, Dick, and Mary wants to fill the opening. It is distressing! And he who’s name I won’t mention here has never been a favorite of mine. I so want to say, “You’re Fired!” and watch him be tossed out on his bottom. Again, sigh.

Oh, well, I’m not moving to Germany. I’m here in the cradle of the south ~ where slavery has a new facade and second class citizens had better know their place.

p.s. I did not proof read this… I’m far too tired to do so….

Sitting on the Edge of a Dream

Kay is a 40 year old woman who has been married to her husband, Dave, for 15 years. Her life has been filled with pain and many disappointments over the years.

So, she escapes her reality by reminiscing on the good times with her high school sweetheart, Reginald.

Kay gets hurt in a very bad car accident, and Reginald comes back into her life to see about her. Kay then realizes that even though she hasn’t had any contact with Reginald in 22 years, she still has strong feelings for him, and needs to decide if she should follow her mind, or her heart.

Me

I wrote a book. It is listed for sale on www.Amazon.com. There is a travel book listed on Amazon, by a lady named Paula Searcy, but it’s not me….at least, I don’t think it’s me.
It is also listed on www.barnesandnoble.com.
It can also be found on Lulu.com.

There are other books, written by me, for sale on Lulu.

As you can see, I am feeling “some type of way”. SIGH

Please purchase a book that was written by me. Thank you in advance!

paula d searcy, a.k.a Rupert Flagg

I also have a FaceBook Fan page – Paula Rupert Flagg Searcy.

I have approved this shameless ad! giggling!

Learned Contentment

Philippians 4:11Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need.…

This past week, the lottery was the largest it’s ever been. I suspect that sometime soon it will again, grow to some other outrageous number and the masses will once again, clamor to get in on it ~ never once understanding that it’s their money ~ their buying in ~ that pushes it up so high.

While I’ve never been a dedicated lottery player, I was addicted to Publisher’s Clearing House and played in an organized fashion for far too many years. Yes, I said, played. It is a game… no purchase needed to win/ be entered and yet… never once, between 1994 and 2001 did i ever remotely won anything. The subscriptions weren’t even free.
We were in deep NEED. I felt divine urging to continue to faithfully send in each mailer on time, writing it on the calendar. It was very sad.

I admit to playing the lottery every so often and I admit to feeling very down when someone wins… I used to search out any info on them to see why God would allow them to win and not me.

Then, just recently did it occur to me why it’s permissible,(1 Cor. 10:23) but not beneficial for me to purchase lottery tickets. It goes against what I say I believe.

Matthew 6:33 ~ …”For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

I’ve heard myself say, “Seek first the kingdom…”(Matt. 6:33), but quite honestly not having a full understanding of just what exactly it means. I didn’t study it, nor have I sought godly wisdom on it. It was and still is a foundational building block for me; a way to stay focused on the Father’s love for me.

Then the other day, I was wandering through a variety store. I questioned myself. “Why Paula, are you wandering aimlessly through this store?” I replied to myself, “I’m shopping.” And as if in a conversation with a good, but wise friend, the response was, “Well, you know what shopping really is, right? (I didn’t answer, these questions are statements) “Shopping is wandering around looking for something to spend money on.”Now, while this may not be a profound statement to you, for me it was “could-have-had-a-V8” moment. Shopping is NOT the result of need, it is motivated by want. I’d already picked up what I came in for, .99. But for whatever reason, I was looking to spend more… “HOW CAN I BE TRUSTED WITH MILLIONS WHEN I CAN’T EVEN BE FAITHFUL WITH THE HUNDREDS?”

I paid my $1.07 (.99 + taxes) and walked out pondering the thought.
It lingered in my mind. I’ve always known that this world’s system of things functions on debt. Commercials are there to entertain and create a false “need”. the words: “Sale” “BOGO” “FREE with purchase“,etc. are all designed to get you to part with your $$$$.$$. An we buy into the debt system, often relying on ourselves to be wise enough to know when to say when…. well, I’m your huckleberry. I’ve learned to tune out commercials that entice, except when it concerns groceries and even then I proceed with caution.

Fast forward to a couple of days ago. I was still pondering the whole shopping conversation while watching a bible study. And as if in a conversation with a good, but wise friend, the was whispered to my spirit, “Contentment will keep you out of lack.” I responded, “I have learned to be content.”His response, deep and freeing “Have you?”
I pondered that question. I thought I had, but the discontent in my heart from not winning the lottery (I didn’t even buy a ticket) spoke otherwise. My hubby works hard and diligently. I, in my daughter’s words, “tend to my vines very carefully; Shooing away the little foxes. And like the writer of this portion of scripture. “ I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need.”
It’s just that I haven’t learned the Father’s plan, the Kingdom’s rhyme and reason of what I’d learned of the world’s lack. sigh
Yes, it’s a process. I must learn to say “no” to my flesh. I truly don’t need new furniture… I have children who disrespect the old stuff. sigh…

I am learning to be content, in a Kingdom sort of way. There is blessing in contentment and I believe that it allows the Father to bless us extraordinarily!
Ephesians 3: 14 “….For this cause I bow my knees unto the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, 15 Of whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, 16 That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man; 17 That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, 18 May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; 19 And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God.

20 Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,

21 Unto him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen. (KJV)

Selah

Promises…..

Simple Definition of promise

Popularity: Top 10% of words
  • : a statement telling someone that you will definitely do something or that something will definitely happen in the future

  • : an indication of future success or improvement

  • : a reason to expect that something will happen in the future

An eternally binding act of hooking pinky fingers together in an attempt to seal the deal of a promise that has been made.
Facebook 2016 is proving to be just as “simple” as its always been. I’ve seen posts that cause me laughter. I have even shared those with my friends.
It’s my goal to not spend so much time on Facebook, but I’m not certain that that goal will be attainable for me, because I’m truly not making much effort to stay off of it.There are other posts… preachy ones…(groan); political ones…. very often from friends I like who don’t seem to share my point of view about anything Barack Obama… who in my opinion has been a very good example of leadership. Again, I am entitled to MY opinion. I am subscribed to his twitter feed(I hope it continues after he leaves office)
There are other posts, ones that have prompted this blog. It has to do with the entire idea of promises.
Three of my adult Facebook friends received “Promise Rings”. The relationships are more than a year long. I’ve stared at the posts and then I asked myself, “Why would a man, over the age of 21, give his girlfriend a promise ring? I believe all three relationships are sexual… no judgement… just a belief. (We’re just going to lay here with our clothes on.., which is as silly as “I’m just gonna put the head in…”)
Then I realized that I was a little angry. All three are strong beautiful women, so why would a promise ring be enough to cause them to post it to social media?
In truth, one other woman received a ring for Christmas… she didn’t post it, but showed it to me, with the comments…”He gave me a ring. Jewelry is always nice!” So I asked, “Is it a promise ring?” She shot me a look…”Girl please… what is he promising? Not to piss me off?” We both giggled.
I suppose my anger is because I believe that the other three relationships are all wrong… (don’t even get me started) BUT, neither of them asked my opinion on their relationships. I’m just venting in hopes that someone, somewhere, would grasp what I’m saying…. if after 12 months, 365 days, he isn’t certain he can go all of the way… drop him. Unless that’s all you want. I believe a promise ring states that he’s happy with the way things are, he’s just making a small deposit to keep the “account/legs” open.
I know that the Millionaire Matchmaker says, “No sex, without monogamy.”BUT, I believe that true monogamy only comes with true commitment. BUT then, it’s just my opinion. If you like it, I love it! (er, not truthfully)
I’m trying to raise my daughter/granddaughters with a sense of self worth that would cause them to respect themselves. I want them to believe that sex before marriage is cheating on their eternal husband.

I wish someone had taken the time to tell me just how much sex affects the psyche. (the human soul, mind,and/or spirit).

I don’t know, I believe that a pinky swear would have been a better.

Oops………

I neglected to renew and as a result I was down for more than a month. Giggling
Did you miss me?

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

The kids are great! Hubby is awesomely amazing and Me? I’m evolving!

2016! I remember when I thought 1977 was just too far away to even imagine, let alone 1984 (the book) 🙂

I haven’t made any resolutions. I’m going to seek to make each day, one day at a time, great! Wait, isn’t that a resolution? HAHAHAHA