Familiarity Breeds Contempt

extensive knowledge of or close association with someone or something leads to a loss of respect for them or it.
I watched an old movie from 1936. I enjoy them because I am reminded that people are people no matter what year the movie is set in.
Anywho, in this movie, the young man was fretting about the first kiss, which he decided could be put off until the wedding day because in the character’s words, “She’s the home run, the grand slam.”
Yes, in the movie there were the usual issues and yes, there was the break up and make up, and yes there was the wedding.
He lifts her veil and says, “I’ve been waiting a very long time for this.” and kissed her gently on the lips. The end.

I began to ponder the state of premarital relations we often get ourselves into; see I believe I robbed myself of many of the feels of new love.
I was far too eager for a relationship. My senior year in High School was horrendous in that area, so much so that it still plagues me.
I wish I could serve up my life as a cautionary tale of WHAT NOT TO DO and at the same time tell you that God does restore.

No, it NEVER happens in your timing, but if you stay focused on the things of God, it most certainly will be made manifest.
At this moment I am witness to a marriage, a family being restored. It took so long that they’d both given up, entering into other relationship, never divorcing, tucking the prayers into the corners of their hearts. It has been eleven years, in our timing, but a mere moment in the Father’s timing.

Diligence isn’t for the weak. It requires stamina and focus. It requires a level of respect that won’t give place to contempt. It requires a focus on NOT rushing familiarity. It is allowing the Creator’s plan to come to fruition.
It’s understanding that Wedding is an action verb and we have made it a noun. Did you know that marrying has another meaning? It also means “cause to meet or fit together; combine.”

This is where the breakdown often happens even before wedding… it’s the breakdown of this area that leads to divorce. Some couples never become a combination, nor do they fit together. This is when it becomes ALL ABOUT ME and YOU’RE NOT MEETING MY NEEDS.

In the movie, the girl is bothered by his not trying to kiss her even as they celebrated the one year mark. He didn’t call it an anniversary, he called it a milestone, to which she took offense and after a long talk with her girlfriends, dumped him.
It was then that she began to see that he filled in the spaces for her, she missed her friend, so she went to his job and waited. They spoke about the issues (communication) sought solutions and went arm in arm to the movies.
Yes, I know it was a movie. Yes, I know it’s entertainment. AND yes, it takes both parties to step towards the center (meet), sigh.
I’m just saying, examine the areas of your relationship looking only for any portion YOU may be wrong in and seek to fix it (forsaking all others) communicating with your spouse about solutions moving forward TOGETHER.

Published by THEMrsSearcy

I wrote my very first novel in the third grade. I remember that it went the way of most loaned one of a kind books written in a ringed notebook. Many years later I lost yet another one that very same way. I no longer "loan" any of my original manuscripts. I'm presently working to finish each and everything I've started by the summer. There truly isn't any reason why I can't achieve that goal. It's been far too, no comments Cece Buffie... I know Girl. My Ace Boon... well you know LOVE YOU, LADY! I am happily married with children, a dog, and a turtle.

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